Reflections on the essay “Doctor, Talk to Me,” by Anotole Broyard.
Greatness. It is a requirement of the practice. No patient is looking to be underwhelmed in their dark hour of need. As Anatole Broyard explains, “Every patient invites the doctor to combine the role of the priest, the philosopher, the poet, the scholar.”
A patient’s minimum expectation of a doctor is that they will practice medicine properly. We expect, many times, a hero. “My ideal doctor would be my Virgil, leading me through my purgatory or inferno, pointing out the sights as we go…He would see the genius of my illness. He would mingle his daemon with mine; we would wrestle with my fate together.”
We share things with doctors that we don’t always share with others in our lives. It is a protected relationship. Protected by the hippocratic oath, doctor-patient confidentiality, and we hope protected from judgement. We trust our doctor with not only information but to know what to do with that information. To put it all together based on the mangled information given. Further, we trust them to join us in our journey and lead us from this danger. Perhaps we expect more from them because deep down we know that healing is not only a matter of the body. After all, “the physician is the patient’s only familiar in [the] foreign country” that is our illness.
“Since technology deprives me of the intimacy of my illness, makes it not mine but something that belongs to science, I wish my doctor could somehow restore it to me and make it personal again.” A robot could read off test results. But a connection, a camaraderie would certainly take the sting out of what may be the most frightening moment of your life. Words delivered that will forever be immortalized in the story of your life.
“Each man is ill in his own way,” just as each doctor practices in his own way. When confronting a serious, long lasting illness or facing a traumatic injury, we expect our doctor to be much more than a good doctor. We expect greatness. We expect to trust the eyes we’re looking into for they may be the last we see.
My husband, because of his specialty, will be the last person some people ever see. I take comfort in knowing he is one of the great men out there who happens to be a doctor. I take comfort in the fact that he won’t be robotic in that moment. I even take comfort in knowing that his hands are always warm. I’m not assured that he will be the last person on earth that I see but I take comfort in knowing there are many doctors out there who wouldn’t let me feel alone in my last seconds.